Bar Girls in Asia
Some realistic advice about bar girls in Asia. It is important to understand that these girls are working in bars as their job. Most cannot do any other type of work. Those who do have skills or knowledge to do different work will not make as much money as what they can make in a bar. It is their job to make you feel welcome and lead you on thinking she is in love with your. The longer you stay, the more money you will spend. Most bar girls make money on every drink you buy for her. She will ask for more and more drinks as you are spending time with her.
This information applies to girls in Thailand, Cambodia and Laos. Except, the girls in Cambodia are a little bit more sincere. The attitude of girls toward sex is very different between the different girls. Most girls who are still virgins (original) will not have sex until they are married. The exceptions are the girls who have a sister working in a bar and will work for drinks only, no sex or sexual touching allowed. Once they have given up sex to a man, then it is open season. This is why so many girls with babies will work in bars and offer their body for money. Some even have a husband back in the province taking care of the baby, while she is entertaining men for money. Some husbands feel that as long as she is using a condom, the sex isn’t real.
Bar girls in Asia lie and will say or do anything for money
Bar girls will not truly love you, but they will truly love your money. The more money you spend, the more she will love you. As soon as the money ends, she will be gone. If you think about the girls willing to sell their body for money, then the conclusion is that money is more important to them than anything. You will never be more important to them than money.
Most bar girls in Asia have a child or two back in the Province being raised by their mother. That is the main reason for working, to send money to their mother to take care of their baby.
Many men think, “My girl is different, she really loves me”, that will never be true. Test her, claim money problems and cut her off for a while and see if she sticks around.
When you walk into a bar, you will have many girls approach you, touching you, begging for your attention. Choose one or two then tell the rest to go away. Buy drinks for the girls you like. She will ask you to buy a drink for her “sister” (not a real sister) and you may want to comply to please her. They will guilt you into buying more drinks for other girls, but stick to the one or two girls you selected to save your money.
Can you marry bar girls in Asia? Sure you can but be prepared to spend a lot of money each month taking care of her and her family. Don’t get involved with a girl and then leave back you your home country with a promise to send her money every month. She will agree, she may even promise to not work at the bar. Reality check: you many not be the only man sending her money every month. She will most definitely go back to work at the bar because otherwise she will be bored and she will love the extra money. Bar girls lie, they lie a lot. Anything for money, remember they sell their bodies for money, nothing is more important than money.
Getting married in Thailand is fairly easy, all you need to do is provide an affidavit from your embassy saying you are eligible to get married. In Cambodia, nearly impossible to get married unless you have a lot of money for bribes. In Loas, forget it, can do, but even more difficult than Cambodia. My advice is to not marry her, use the excuse that you are already married in your home country but haven’t finalized the divorce yet. Live together as if you are already married. Most girls won’t care as long as the money is still flowing to her.
Relationship with bar girls in Asia
Navigating relationships with anyone, especially in a cross-cultural context, requires sensitivity and understanding. Here’s advice for a foreigner considering a relationship with bar girls in Asia:
Key Considerations:
- Understanding the Context:
- Many women working in bars in Thailand do so out of economic necessity. It’s crucial to be aware of the potential power imbalances and vulnerabilities involved.
- The sex industry in Thailand is complex, and it’s essential to avoid generalizations. Each individual’s situation is unique.
- Respect and Honesty:
- Treat her with respect, regardless of her profession. Avoid patronizing or demeaning behavior.
- Be honest about your intentions. If you’re looking for a short-term arrangement, be upfront. If you’re hoping for a long-term relationship, be realistic and patient.
- Financial Awareness:
- Be prepared for financial expectations. Many bar girls support their families, and financial assistance may be part of the relationship.
- Avoid being naive about money. Scams and exploitation can occur. Exercise caution and avoid making large financial commitments early on.
- Cultural Differences:
- Thai culture values politeness, respect, and saving face. Be mindful of your words and actions.
- Learn about Thai customs and traditions. This will demonstrate your respect and help you build a stronger connection.
- Communication:
- Clear communication is essential. Be patient and understanding, especially if there are language barriers.
- Listen actively and pay attention to her needs and concerns.
- Due diligence:
- It is very important to understand that there are many people that will want to take advantage of foreigners. So take your time, and get to know the person very well, before making any large commitments.
- Reality check:
- It is important to keep in mind, that for many bar girls, their job is their job. This means that they have become very good at creating a customer relationship. This does not always translate to a real romantic relationship.
Important Reminders:
- Prostitution is illegal in Asia, although enforcement varies.
- Be aware of the risks of sexually transmitted infections. Practice safe sex.
- Be cautious about trusting everything you hear.
- It is very important to be aware of the potential for emotional manipulation.
Ultimately, building a healthy relationship requires mutual respect, honesty, and understanding. Take your time, be patient, and prioritize open communication.